Danielle LaPorte doesn’t ask the usual question, “What are your goals?” but asks us
“How do you want to feel?”
I have found my answers to be a great road map for self-care. Knowing my desires directs my actions throughout the day. I want to feel:
“Healthy” is absolutely most important to me. I use it as a mantra and that takes away any ambivalence I might have about exercise, or if I should blend up a green smoothie. I just do it, without the struggle, without resistance. The same goes for happy and loving. These simple words are a compass for my daily choices and behavior. My choices become effortless, and how I treat others, a given. What I read, do, speak, all guided by this notion of being true to how I want to feel and be in this world. Happy. Loving. Healthy.
So what do I mean by DIY or DIE? We all must “Do it Yourself” when it comes to self-care or, frankly, die, no one can do this for us. If not physical death, (although that can happen from self neglect), it’s entirely possible to suffer a death of our spirit and capacity for joy, compassion and inner peace.
Dramatic? Perhaps. But I know it’s true. As Byron Katie says “The freer I get, the less pain others experience”.
How hard is it for other people to endure our lack of self-love? Do we treat them kindly when we are completely depleted or ill?
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